May 2019

18May(May 18)10:00 AM19(May 19)5:00 PMKeeping Cool in the Fire: Transforming Inner and Outer Conflict10:00 AM - 5:00 PM (19) Community Meditation Center Teacher(s): Donald Rothberg, PhD with Stephen Fulder, PhD No prerequisiteOpen

Event Details

Dates: May 18 – 19, 2019; 10:00am – 5:00pm
Sliding Scale:
$150 – 400. Code DR1M19.
12 CE credits available for $120, for psychologists and California licensed MFTs, LCSWs, LEPs, LPCCs, nurses, and chiropractors.

We are living at a time when conflict and insecurity are increasingly pervasive, whether in close relationships, the workplace, political polarization, or relationships between ethnic groups. Conflicts may be the source of much frustration, despair, anger, and burnout, and for those engaged in spiritual or psychological work, they may be a major challenge. How do we deal with friction in my job or relationship or should we leave? How do we respond to injustice? How do we communicate with those with different political views? How do we reduce the tendency to automatic reactivity?

In this day retreat, we will suggest some core principles and practices for working with conflict and reactivity, including dharma tools used by Stephen Fulder over many years of work on the front lines of the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. We will be guided by a vision of non-dual “conflict transformation,” rooted in the Buddha’s Middle Way and the contemporary work of peacemakers. A starting point is seeing conflict as simply a difference, tension, or contradiction between goals, intentions, or values, which may or may not be connected with hostility and aggression. Our hope is that we can better approach conflicts as opportunities for learning, reconciliation, steadiness, trust, and compassion. During the day, there will be guided meditations, short talks, discussion, interactive exercises, and work with conflict scenarios.

Stephen Fulder will teach only on Saturday; Donald Rothberg will teach both days.

Teachings are appropriate for health care professionals as well as the general public. Health care professionals will be able to incorporate the tools and practices offered in this program in ways beneficial to clients or patients. Continuing Education (CE) credit available. See below for attendance requirements and more information.

Learning Objectives for participating health care professionals-
Based on the content of this program, you will be able to:

• Demonstrate to clients a conflict transformation model to clarify the dynamics of repetitive conflicts;
• Describe how mindfulness of conflictual dynamics is key to working skillfully with conflicts;
• Describe how skill in working with difficult emotions such as fear and anger is key to skill in transforming conflicts;
• Describe how compassion practices may be used when working with challenging people or situations;
• Describe how working through attachments to one’s views is key to the skillful work with conflicts;
• Describe how conflicts can be opportunities for learning and transformation;
• Describe how conflicts can helpfully be defined in terms of differences of intentions, goals, and values, rather than necessarily involving hostility or aggression;
• Describe some of the reasons why conflicts are hard for many people.

Continuing Education content level: Introductory

General Information

Online registration for our programs is available until 12 noon of the last business day prior to the day of the event (e.g. online registration for a Monday program ends at 12 noon on the prior Friday). There is an additional $5 fee for registering at the door. If you can’t attend an event you registered for, please see our Cancellation Policy.


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Continuing Education

This program offers 12 CE credits for $120 for psychologists and California licensed MFTs, LCSWs, LEPs, LPCCs, nurses, and chiropractors. If you have a different license and are interested in CE credit, please check with your licensing board to see if credits from APA or BRN approved providers are accepted.

Continuing Education credit is co-sponsored by Spirit Rock and the Spiritual Competency Resource Center.

– The Spiritual Competency Resource Center is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. The Spiritual Competency Resource Center maintains responsibility for this program and its content.
– Spirit Rock is a provider approved by the California Board of Registered Nursing, Provider Number CEP16905 for 12 contact hours.
– The California Board of Behavioral Sciences accepts CE credits for license renewal for programs from APA approved agencies.
– The California Board of Chiropractic Examiners Code of Regulations 361(h)(2) provides that continuing education requirements may be met by taking continuing education courses by any California Healing Arts Board approved provider, including those approved by the BRN.
Attendance Requirements:
– Sign-in at the CE table within 15 minutes of the start of the program;
– Stay until the end of the program;
– Sign out.


Credit is awarded for instructional time only and does not include extended silent meditation, if offered. For more information about CE credit at Spirit Rock, please visit the CE Credit information page.


Cancellation Policy:
If you are unable to attend a program, or fulfill the attendance requirements for CE credit, you may offer your CE credit fee as a donation to Spirit Rock, or you may request a credit to be used towards a future non-residential program. If you would like a credit, you must cancel by 4:00pm at least two business days prior to the program. For more information, please see our Cancellation Policy for Non-Residential Programs.


  • Donald Rothberg, PhD

    Donald Rothberg, PhD

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  • Stephen Fulder, PhD

    Stephen Fulder, PhD

    Stephen Fulder, PhD, is one of Israel’s leading spiritual teachers, founder of the Israel Insight Society (Tovana). He has been teaching Buddhist teachings and meditation practice to thousands of people over the last 20 years. He draws on 40 years of deep personal experience of Vipassana/ Mindfulness meditation and dharma practice as well as the immeasurable wisdom of the Buddhist tradition, to help us to rediscover the magic of the moment, and the great heart and big mind that lies just under the surface. He has been involved for many years in peace work in the Middle East and was a founder of the Middleway organization in Israel and the Palestinian Territories.

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